Enable the default `autoDestroy: true` option in IncomingMessage.
Refactor `_http_client` and `_http_server` to remove any manual
destroying/closing of IncomingMessage.
Refactor IncomingMessage `destroy` method to use the standard
implementation of the stream module and move the early termination
event emitting inside of it.
PR-URL: https://github.com/nodejs/node/pull/33035
Refs: https://github.com/nodejs/node/issues/30625
Reviewed-By: Robert Nagy <ronagy@icloud.com>
Reviewed-By: Matteo Collina <matteo.collina@gmail.com>
Reviewed-By: Rich Trott <rtrott@gmail.com>